Jerry and school

Today I am so perplexed over school these days. I do not understand any more how they operate. Things use to be so open between school and home and parents and now I see more and more a control issue. I know there has always been some control but now there seems to be a flexing of the muscle if yo will. I am SO glad this is my last kid in school. I honestly do not think I could go thru this again. I am so glad that we homeschooled for the 5 years we did. It was an incredible time of learning and bonding together. When Jerry went to 8th grade in public school it was alot of fun for him and an eye opener of how much busy work there was and all the time wasted as well. Then he went on to high school and each year was a skin of the teeth passing. Now he is in his last year of school. Not only is he facing the fear and uncertainies of college vs work but he also has a teacher that is on him. I finally had to write her this morning to let her know that he was going to stay in this other teachers class that he has been attending while the primary teacher was out on medical leave for 8 weeks. I wrote a very nice email to her thanking her for the last 3.5 years of watching over Jerry and telling her that Jerry was going to stay in the temp class he was attending while she was out. I asked her to continue to encourage Jerry to stay on track to finish school etc. She immediately sent me a copy of the email and the note she sent to the attendence office that Jerry was switching to this other teacher for the rest of the year. This would have been ok but she also included that he had been tardy this week and was being counted on her roll as tardy and she did not want this reflected on her roll. Knowing this woman for the last 10 years I can tell you it was not done with Jerrys interest in mind but her own and as a spite. It is either her way or the highway. You never question her or go against her. She has always tried to be the kids best friend but then she will tell them about stuff other kids have done...sex...drugs...3 some's etc.etc. She has often told me on the phone about other kids and used their names etc, and even told me about the parents of these kids. I have always listened and took things in my stride then tried to forget it all. Now I am seeing really clear what some of the kids have told me over the years about Miss Jane (not her real name). I always have gone to the teachers side most of the time and tried to see why they did things they way they did. Hindsight really is 20/20. If you get mad at her or heaven forbid leave her class you pay the price. I can only hope reprucussions will not follow in his wake. She can be a vengeful and even spiteful woman. She can also be your best friend....as long as you are playing on her field and sahe is the grand pooba in charge. I am glad we only have 5 months to go til graduation day!